Good dealings with in-law relatives

Good dealings with in-law relatives: The Almighty Allah has made two relations: blood and in-law. A man gets strength and support from both relations. This is the reason why Allah Almighty has favoured with both the relations in the Glorious Qur’ān

Moreover, the Sharīʿah has forbidden men to get married with mother-in-laws, grandmother-in-laws and similarly with daughters of wife, daughters of daughter of wife. Likewise, it has forbidden a woman to get married with her fathers-in-law and grandfathers-in-law and similarly son of husband, sons of sons of husband

The in-laws should also be taken care of like blood relatives. The husband should respect and deal nicely with the wife’s father, mother, brothers and sisters. The wife’s parents bring their beloved daughter up well and hand her over to son-in-law, so now it is his moral duty to serve, respect and deal goodly with them as per his capacity. It is unjust and ridiculous that the parents who give their daughter to their son-in-law are mistreated and even reproached۔ Good dealings with in-law relatives

Dealing nicely with the parents of wife is actually dealing nicely with the wife herself. Dealing well with the parents of wife develops love and affection towards the husband in the heart of wife and it leads to a happy married life. On the contrary, dealing badly and criticizing her parents will create hatred in the heart of the wife. Since the wife has emotional relation with her parents and family, so if they are reproached or badly dealt with, it will break her heart and then she cannot serve and abide by her husband goodly and she cannot lead her life happily with her husband۔

Husband should deal well with his father-in-law ish

Sayyidnā Miswar ibn Makhramah (rz) Says that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) mentioned his son-in-law namely Abū Al-ʿĀṣ Ibn Rabīʿ and admired him immensely for his relationship with him and extolled him well. He said, “He talked to me and talked truly and he made promise with me and fulfilled it

Abū Al-ʿĀṣ fought in the Battle of Badr on the side of the polytheists and was captured by ʿAbdullāh ibn Jubayr al-Anṣārī. Sayyidah Zaynab sent a ransom for him via his brother ʿAmr, including an onyx necklace that had been a wedding present from Sayyidah Khadījah (rz). At the sight of the necklace, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) remembered Sayyidah Khadījah (rz) and was moved. He sent Abū Al-ʿĀṣ back to Mecca without taking any of the ransom on the condition that Zaynab be sent to Madinah. Hence, he sent her۔

This is an excellent example of good dealing with the wife’s parents that Abū Al-ʿĀṣ fulfilled the word and sent her while he had not become a Muslim so far. Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) exalted him and praised him immensely۔

Sayyidnā Uthmān ibn ʿAffān, the third caliph of Islam

He was also the son-in-law of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). Two daughters of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) were married with him one after the other Therefore, he was called: “Dhū Al-Nūrayn” (a man with two lights). The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) exalted ʿUthmān multiple times. When Umm Kulthūm (rz) died, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: “If I had one more daughter, I would have given her in the marriage to ʿUthmān

The aforesaid statement clarifies the good morals, chastity and loyalty of ʿUthmān. This is why  (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said if I had third daughter I would have given in your marriage۔

Sayyidnā ʿAlī Ibn Abī Ṭālib, the fourth caliph of Islam

Sayyidnā ʿAlī Ibn Abī Ṭālib (ra) was one of the cousins of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). He was brought up by him (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and was his son-in-law. He was married with the most beloved daughter of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). On the occasion of Khayber, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “I will give the flag to such a person tomorrow that God and His Messenger love him and he loves God and His Messenger. God will realize the conquest through his hands.” On the second day, the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu  Alaihi Wasallam) called ʿAlī and handed over the flag to him and he conquered the battle۔

Sayyidnā ʿAlī (rz) narrated that Sayyidah Fāṭimah (rz) complained of what she suffered from the hand mill and from grinding. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) came to our house when we had gone to our beds. (On seeing the Prophet), we were going to get up, but he said, ‘Keep at your places’,so Sallallahu  Alaihi Wasallam sat in between them. Ali(raziallahuanhu) said, ‘I felt the coolness of the Prophet’s feet on my chest’. So many incidents of such kind are mentioned in the books of Ḥadīth۔

This incident clarifies how much Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) loved and had attachment with  Hazrat Ali (raziallahuanhu) and how much trust he would place on his loyalty and character Good dealings with in-law relatives –