Characteristics of righteous wife

Characteristics of righteous wife:The wife plays an important role in making the marital life a happy one. This is because the wife is asked to adopt the characteristics which the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has described in a ḥadīth. He says

Let me inform you about the best asset a man hoards; it is a virtuous woman who pleases him when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives her a command, and guards his interests when he is away from her

Good character

The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has said that it is a virtuous woman who pleases him when he looks at her

A beautiful woman pleases him by her looks and a woman with good character pleases him by her character. There are so many wives who are really beautiful; but they are also reluctant and ready to fight time and again so their husbands do not like to even look at them. So, she should try to win the heart of her husband by their good character, manners, service, loyalty and good dealings and rule the heart of her husband.

She should keep herself, children and the home clean and when the husband comes home, should welcome him by a smile and when he goes out, she should see him off with good regards. She should explain her needs and problems to her husband taking care of an appropriate occasion and the mood of her husband. , should try to lower her voice before him. , should deal with his relatives goodly and respectfully and try not to act in a way that leads her to disgrace and disloyal in the eyes of her husband.characteristics of righteous wife


The Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) further said, “Obeys him when he gives her a command

The Almighty Allah has made men in-charge and responsible to solve the minor issues of the world. The Sharīʿah gives the responsibility of handling the family to husband. If a woman is made in-charge, she will confront difficulties while handling outdoor works. Moreover, she is naturally soft-hearted and hasty. Therefore, she is unable to make foresighted decisions

So, when a man is made in-charge of the house, the wife should obey him and accept his decision and abide by him regarding all Sharʿī and lawful issues and his rights. But, she is not allowed to obey him in non-Sharʿī matters. The wife should obey her husband and have will to abide by him and think that her success depends on his obedience. The husband forgives all minor and major mistakes, if the wife abides by him

The godly men describe

If the wife compels her husband and gets what she wants done by him, it will not be virtuous and useful for her. So, the wife should present the matter, satisfy him and please if she is, in fact, more foresighted than her husband so that barakah (virtues) may stay at the home and the life turns happy and satisfactory

Security and guarding her chastity

When the husband is out of the town, she should guard her chastity. A man can forgive all mistakes committed by his wife but cannot neglect the mistake of an unchaste woman. She should secure his home and bring up his children properly. She should not do any act regarding wealth and character that leads to create a doubt or distrust in heart. If the husband doubts that she lies, steals money or secret and discloses the domestic matters to others, he will cease to love her

She should not interact with other strangers without any severe need. If it comes to interact, she should not soften her speech as the Almighty Allah says in the Glorious Qur’ān

Helping nature

So, do not be too soft in your speech

Thawbān (rz) narrated: If we knew which wealth was better then, we would use it. So Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: ‘The most virtuous of it is a remembering tongue, a grateful heart, and a believing wife that helps him with his faith

If the husband wants to look religious by his looks, spend his time and wealth in religious works, respect relatives and guests, bring his children up according to religion, clean the home from pictures and TV and wants his children to wear religious cloths, the wife should help him in all these matters and walk shoulder to shoulder in religious works; rather she should be one step ahead in religious works. She should not impede him in any way rather help him. By the grace of Allah, both husband and wife will be rewarded. She should take suggestion from her husband regarding the education and upbringing of children

She should console when he is in grief or problem and encourage him. Sayyidah Khadījah and Sayyidah Umm Salamah (rz) would console the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) in a good manner and the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) would get relaxed and feel easy. So, the wife should console her husband and serve him and be loyal to him as Sayyidah Khadījah Al-Kubrā (ra) would do, and therefore, the Almighty Allah would send blessings and salutations from heaven to her-Characteristics of righteous wife